Hey there. My name is Sydney and I’m a 25-year-old single mother living with my parents. Now there is a sentence I never thought I would write! But there it is. So what’s my story and how did I end up here? Well, let me tell you…
Not too long ago, I was just an average 24-year-old. I was single, starting my last semester at community college before transferring to a university, and working full-time at a resort. I was super busy, but my life was pretty dang boring. So I did what any self-respecting girl looking for a little fun and adventure does…I downloaded a dating app. Now let me tell you, it did, in fact, bring me a lot of fun. Some might even say I had a little too much fun, because (surprise!!!) in February 2016 I found out I was pregnant.
To say I was shell-shocked would be an enormous understatement. I have always been a perfectionist when it came to every aspect of my life. And having a baby alone (because apparently, young guys who accept responsibly for their actions are rare) was not my idea of how my life was supposed to go. It didn’t feel real and I have never had a more out-of-body experience than the day I saw that positive test.
Every perfectionist bone in my body told me not to go through with it. But something in my heart told me there was no way I couldn’t. It took a major identity overhaul and mindset revamp, but eventually, I decided if I was going to do this, I was going to do it right. And that meant tuning out the opinions and judgment of others and owning the single mom title! After all, how hard could it be? I would just have to take my cues from one of my idols…Lorelai Gilmore of course!
And it was the best thing I ever did! Because on October 15, 2016, at 5:06 am I welcomed the most beautiful baby girl I ever saw…my little Lily Ray. I kept hearing people tell me that you don’t know love until you have a child, but nothing can prepare you for the intensity of emotions you feel when you have a baby. The second I saw her I knew everything in my life had led me to her. Every heartbreak and every mistake I made was for a reason. I truly believe she is my soul mate and I feel so blessed that she chose me to be her mommy.
Why did I start this blog?
I’m starting this blog for two reasons. First, to hopefully inspire other new mothers. To show them that even if their circumstances are not ideal they can still be a great mother, that no mother is alone in their journey, and that there are other mommy’s out there who share in their struggles and also in their triumphs. And second, to create a resource for new mothers. Somewhere they can find all the information us fairly clueless new mothers need. Lily and I have become a great team. We learn something new every day and want to share our new knowledge with other mommy’s and maybe spare them a mistake or two.
What I don’t want this blog to be is phony. I am not perfect and I don’t know everything. I can’t remember the last time I put make-up on and I prefer leggings over jeans any day. Lily is not always impeccably dressed, but when she is I sure as hell am going to Instagram it. I never want to project a seemingly perfect unachievable standard. But who am I kidding? I don’t think I could do that if I tried! I love people who are unapologetically themselves. No matter how messy or flawed that may be. So that is my goal here. And I hope I can live up to that.
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Have a beautiful day!